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I’M JUST SAY’N CAROLYN MAGNER Sold on Singles Top 10 reasons for celebrating being a bachelor Dear Carolyn, Here’s my list of the top 10 reasons I’m happier when I’m single. 10. The dog can sleep wherever he wants, even on my sheets. 9. I can wear what I want to wear, when I want to wear it, even if it’s not ironed. 8. I can watch whatever I want to watch on my own damn TV. 7. I can put my boots on my own sofa. 6. I’m in charge of my own finances. 5. I can drink milk right from the carton. 4. The phone is always for me. 3. Ice cream can be for breakfast. 2. There’s nobody telling me to walk around my truck 32 times. 1. And the number one best reason to be single? Nobody to disap- point on Valentine’s Day! Men, if you are thinking about breaking up with someone, do it before Feb. 14! I’m just say’n (sorry Carolyn, I couldn’t resist!), Frank Frankie Baby, You had me at letting the dog sleep on the sheets! I’m just say’n. Dear Carolyn, After spending the best years of Visit Carolyn’s I’m Just Say’n blog for daily love and relationship advice: www.truckersnews. com/ask-carolyn my life with a man who never really loved me, I finally found the courage to divorce him. Life was hard at first. I had to learn how to handle my finances, fix my own stuff when it broke, mow my lawn and kill my roaches. But I came through it and am stronger/better/ happier than I ever expected to be. The reason I’m writing is that I happened to run across my ex and his new wife at the grocery store the other day. He was actually shop- ping with her, they were laugh- ing, touching and obviously in love. I was amazed at how happy and genuinely relaxed he seemed. In all the years we were married, he never went to the grocery store once, and he certainly never smiled at me like that! I know it’s a small thing and I shouldn’t obsess over it, but I keep thinking that maybe I was more to blame for our lousy marriage than I once thought. He was very nice when he saw me staring at them, and I was extremely embarrassed to have been caught gawking. Now I’m just depressed by the whole thing. What do you think? Janice Dear Janice, I think that relationships are com- plex. You are a different person 36 TRUCKERS NEWS FEBRUARY 2011 Carolyn Magner is not a professional thera- pist, shrink or even a very nice person. Her advice is meant to entertain you, not solve your terrible, desperate problems. E-mail Carolyn at cmagner@rrpub.com. now than you were in your mar- riage. He may be different now or merely reacting to different dynamics with a different partner. Now that you are stronger/happier and more confident you are look- ing at your old marriage through a new prism. You are experienc- ing the somewhat uncomfortable realization that no one person is usually completely to blame for a relationship’s failure. So. Now that you know he’s happy, get back to the business of your happiness. I’m just say’n. Dear Carolyn, My daughter has cerebral palsy and is in a wheelchair. She’s a beautiful, smart, funny 12-year-old, and her favorite thing is to go to the mov- ies. On Christmas Eve, my wife and I decided to splurge and treat her to a show. When we got to the the- ater, there was a long line, and we waited in the cold to buy our tick- ets. By the time we got to the coun- ter, they were sold out. We turned around to leave, and a man who had been ahead of us came over and gave us the three tickets he had just bought. He refused to let me pay for them. He was wearing a Freightliner ball cap, and I feel sure he was a fellow truck driver. That’s all I know, but if you could print this, I’d sure appreciate it. He made my daughter’s Christmas complete by his act of kindness. Jason in Little Rock, Ark. Jason, Awwww! I’m just say’n.